We may have a choice about our job, our company or the boss we’ll want to work with’. But often, we don’t have a choice about the people we work alongside. In an organisation with quite a number of employees, you’ll likely find different characters and personalities.
Among these personalities, you’ll find people who are really difficult to work with, and down the line, you’ll realise that you love your job and hate your coworker.
Since you can’t change other people — as much as you would like to, you are going to have to find a way to deal with these set of people in a mature and non-violent way if you want to get some work done in a less stressful environment.
Here’s a list of different kinds of people you’ll likely find a hard time working with, and how to cope with them:
These guys are always on their own. They are not interested in sharing information and has no facility for collaboration. To them, it does not matter that two heads are better than one, they are flying solo. This may be one of the hardest personalities to negotiate with, because the communication goes one way only.
The best way to handle them is to put your energy elsewhere — focus on collaborating with people who know how to collaborate. Let go of any expectations that they will be any different than they are and you won’t be disappointed.
These chatty guys are very draining. They love to spend their day talking to you about the boss, your other co-workers, and whether or not the Head of Accounting is pregnant. They are harmless if you don’t share anything with him that you don’t want the entire company to know about.
If they gossip about others, then you know that they gossip about you. The first step toward dealing with a gossip is not to get sucked in yourself. Don’t participate in gossiping which can be hard to resist, depending on the subject of the conversation. Remember to focus energy on the people who deserve it — including yourself.
These set of coworkers are never, ever happy. They hate everything about work, and they tend to whine about everything outside of work as well. They complain about their workload (even though they never work!), the boss, coworkers, paycheck, the raise they just got and anything else.
How then do you deal? They need someone to agree with them or else their words do not have power behind them. Therefore, stop agreeing with them. Every time they say something negative, contradict it with something positive. They will slowly start to back away and look for someone else to whine to.
These guys simply do not like to work. They push their responsibilities on to everyone else around them. They show little initiative and deadlines are merely suggestions to them. When they do produce work, it embarrasses you. It requires so much effort to get out any productivity from them, that often people around them give up trying and pull the extra weight themselves.
What to do? Focus on your work. If you are feeling pressured to help out, and you know this is a person who doesn’t reciprocate when the tables are turned, voice your concerns to your boss before taking on the extra responsibility. If you are their manager, give small tasks with tight deadlines and follow-up persistently.
These guys would do everything their power to avoid work, and try to drag you down with them. They can’t just sit and stare at the wall, because that would be boring. No, usually they have to come and bug you and talk to you about nonsense stuff that just wastes time. They may do things like, talk to the boss for hours about ‘important subjects’, talk to you about the unimportant stories they heard on the way to work or organize their work area so they look like they are working.
You can deal with them by just ignoring and getting on with your day! Do not yell at them. It will do no good because it will go in one ear and out the other.
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