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5 Signs Your Boss Doesn’t Really Like You

If your boss doesn’t seem to really like you, you’re not alone. An alarmingly high percentage of Nigerians have some of the most horrible stories to tell about their bosses. Now that’s a consoling stat!

When the person who you report to, actively dislikes you (be sure he/she doesn’t treat everyone this way) and freezes you out, that’s a dangerous place to be.

Here are the obvious signs:


1. You’re not trusted to do the job well

Your boss never trusts you to figure out details and do an assigned  job well. He/she is always checking up on your work before it’s due and generally displaying a lack of confidence in your output.

What to do about it

First, ask yourself whether you’ve done anything to warrant the lack of confidence. Have you been doing shady jobs on tasks or making avoidable mistakes? If not, then summon up courage to ask if there’s anything you’re doing that makes your boss feel they can’t trust you.


2. You never get positive feedback

If your boss praises others and leaves you unrecognized, even for a good job, that’s a sign that it reflects something about his/her perception of you.

What to do about It

Ask for your boss’s thoughts on your work. Pay attention to the response because that will give you more insight on how he/she sees you. This information will prove helpful for you, whether or not you agree with his/her assessment.


3. You are left out of important meetings

He/she regularly cancels your meetings, forgets to send reminder emails to you, and generally doesn’t seem to have you anywhere on the invitation list.

What to do about it

Get a chance to talk about how you feel about this. And ask if there’s a way to have you included in the meetings. It’s okay to be assertive about this, but don’t be accusatory. If you’re sure you should be a part of the meeting, then speak up.


4. Your boss doesn’t seem to care if you quit

Usually, good bosses will go to great lengths to keep an employee they really value—but they won’t object when an employee they don’t much care for considers quitting.

What to do about it

If your boss doesn’t see your worth, you’re less likely to get the kinds of promotion, raises, or training opportunities that you deserve. However, this may not be such a terrible thing as you can factor it into your requirements as you consider your next career move.


5. You have a hunch

Do you know that feeling you get when you know there’s something just off? You can’t put your finger on it, but you recognize that this person doesn’t really like you.

What to do about it

Most Nigerians would understand that there’s a lot to be said for trusting your instincts. It’s not, however, advisable to base your career decisions on a gut feeling. But if you keep getting that creeping sense this boss doesn’t like you, then it’s probably true. You may need to quit, if all else fails.

We know, you and your boss don’t need to be best friends. But if your boss has a bias against you, it can colour his/her interactions with you.


Have you ever felt your boss wasn’t that into you? What did you do about it?

5 Signs Your Boss Doesn’t Really Like You was last modified: July 21st, 2017 by Obiageli Asika