Whether you’re still dating or newly engaged, you should know these 7 things before getting married. They’ll make sure you’re traveling the road to wedded bliss, with way fewer bumps along the way.
1. Communication is important
If you and your partner don’t communicate well, get to work. Communication doesn’t get easier over time, and as life gets more serious as you think work, money, kids, getting hitched to a partner you can’t talk to is a marriage DON’T.
Before you even get engaged, make sure you and your partner can talk about anything, and make sure you do.
2. Don’t marry a stranger
A study found that marriage does indeed lead to increased well-being, mainly thanks to friendship.
Don’t marry a stranger and hope you’ll become compatible over time. Be good friends. Start with a solid foundation of love, shared values, common interests, and trust.
3. Don’t expect your partner to change
People do change, but not in predictable ways. If she doesn’t want children, assume she’ll always not want children. If he has a temper, assume he’ll always have a temper.
If you try to change the other person, why were you with them in the first place? For hope that they would change? It’s hard enough to change yourself. How can you hope to survive if you have to change both yourself and someone entirely different from you.
4. You’ll learn certain habits about your partner by living together
If you haven’t yet lived with your partner, you can’t know everything about him/her, like whether he or she is wasteful or frugal at home, how often he talks to friends and family, whether he’ll pitch in around the house, and whether he actually goes to bed at the same time as you.
Marriage reveals a lot, and you should get ready to expect habits you weren’t even looking forward to.
5. Kids change everything
First it’s you and your partner. Then, it’s you and your partner and a new human being.
This human being in one foot tall, doesn’t speak, cries and screams all the time, and poops on the floor. Lives in your house, and will dies if you don’t watch it 24 hours a day. With the new entry, your daily routine with your partner might no longer be the same, your topics of discussion might also slightly change. A lot would change really. It’s like a brand new family.
6. Nobody wins an argument
“But he’s wrong!” “But you’re wrong!”
This doesn’t matter. There is no winner once a voice is raised. Knowing this is the difference between a relationship that survives until tomorrow and a relationship that dissolves in one night.
7. You’ll never get to know your partner perfectly
After dating someone for a couple of years, you might feel like you know everything about them: what kind of toothpaste they use, which foods nauseates them. But you probably don’t know them quite as well as you think you do.
According to a , couples who had been together longer expressed more confidence in how well they knew each other. But as it turns out, relationship length wasn’t related to accuracy.
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