Is it really a party if it’s a pity party? We’ve all been to one, though. Perhaps, it was an ugly breakup that we couldn’t stop replaying in our mind. Perhaps it was something even more grievous, such as the loss of a parent or loved one. Maybe a doctor just relayed some fearful news. Either way, when life knocks us down, sometimes it’s darn near impossible to get back up again.
Here are tips to help you rise quickly after life hits your hard:
1. Allow yourself time
Although this sounds counterproductive, do allow yourself some time to wallow. It’s only natural, and we have to feel what we feel.
It would be unnatural to see someone experience a tremendous loss and then just whip around with a bright, beaming smile. As painful as it might be, allow yourself some time to sit in those sad, lonely, defeated feelings.
2. Talk about it
Don’t try to bottle up your feelings, no matter how embarrassed you might feel. Talk it over with patient friends who will really listen. If need be, seek out a little one-on-one time with a life coach or therapist.
I don’t know how or why, but non-physical things—such as negative thoughts and reliving horrid memories—can manifest in very physical ways. How about those tension headaches? How about that lack of sleep that makes our skin sallow? You must talk this time through, as often as you feel the urge to.
3. Do something
Do something. When you don’t even want to get out of bed, make that your one achievement for the day. Get up, take a quick shower and do something, anything. Sit in a cafe instead of on your sofa behind drawn curtains.
Go to a movie by yourself. Grocery shop, pick up a few of your favorite treats. Make plans with a friend when socializing is the last thing you want to do. Make it your personal goal for just that one day out of the week. Pat yourself on the back for achieving it.
4. Be proud
Was it a breakup? Was it the loss of a loved one? Was it a series of unfortunate events that piled up and made you toss in the towel? No matter what, guess what’s going to happen at some point? You’re going to come through the other side. At some point, you’re going to feel like yourself again, contribute at work again, socialize with your friends regularly again.
Keep that image in mind. Although you might only be on Step 2 right now, you will get through this. When you do, you’re going to feel just a little bit stronger, just a little bit more able to conquer life’s curve-ball to the nose.
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