It’s a digital age, and it has become trendy to not just post updates on social media, but we’ve begun to use it as a means to feed our eyes and stay off boredom through posts made by others.
It’s common to find people make diverse posts about every thing that happens in their lives, including the ones that shouldn’t be told to the world. Social media can be way more fun when you can post photos and videos of that special someone you enjoying spending time with on platforms, but it’s also important to know that the internet has begun to play a big role in relationships.
Trending topics might not show the amount of relationships that fail when they are showcased on social media, but note that relationships have failed as a result of wrong postings/sharing on social media.
Before you post the next ‘best boo in the world’ or ‘amazing day with hubby’ you should realise that your social media friends might not react in the way you may expect, and the following reasons are why social media may not be good for your relationship:
It gives everyone opportunity to stick their nose in your relationship
Your relationship is not a movie, and no one need to snack on popcorn while watching your personal drama unfold. Just like we do with celebrity couples, constantly posting about your romance will be an open invitation for others to get involved. With that said, it is much easier to deal with a hard time without having an audience to comment and ask why you haven’t been posting as often.
You can also avoid the unwanted “When are you getting married?” badgering as well. Constant posting gives your relationship an unnecessary audience, and gives people opportunity to voice their opinions about your relationship.
You will be prone to false validation
When you post your sweet couple selfies, and tweet about the best date you ever had, who are you really doing it for? Your Facebook friends do not need to validate the strength of your relationship. A healthy and stable relationship does not need to be brought in the public eye. If you constantly post a photo or a video of your time together, it implies a sense of insecurity in your relationship. Relying on others’ validation put unnecessary pressure on your relationship.
You may force yourself to fall in love too soon because of everyone else’s perspective. You don’t need to refrain from putting picture f you and your significant other on social media, be careful not to post too much. No relationship has ever been strengthened because of 300 likes on a photo.
Your break up will get major attention
Unfortunately, breakups happen. They are difficult enough on their own, but social media can enhance the pain of it. By changing your relationship status on Facebook, not only will you feel sincere sadness when changing it back to “single,” but people will bombard you with countless prying questions about what happened.
A breakup on social media further ignites the devastation you are feeling, especially when all you want to do is listen to Taylor Swift songs and eat a box of chocolate by yourself.
You won’t be spending valuable time with your partner
The most valuable part of your relationship is the time you two spend together. Would you ever want to invite a whole bunch of random people to your romantic picnic? I doubt it. By posting every romantic and sweet moment in your relationship, you are inviting everyone else in on your most intimate and personal moments with one another. Keep the quality time strictly between you and your love.
All in all, social media invades every aspect of our lives. Our birthdays, our triumphs and our everyday life. Don’t let social media have the satisfaction of invading your relationship as well. A healthy relationship begins with you and your significant other and the wonderful things that happen when the two of you are together. It is personal, and no one else needs to know all of the details.
What is your social media story? Tell us in the comment box!